Don't Fulfill Your Potential

One of the greatest challenges ministry leaders face is the pressure to live up to and fulfill their potential.

If you're a motivated leader, there will always be more opportunity than you have time and energy to accomplish.

One of the great lies of ministry is that you can fulfill your potential in every area of your life.

The reality is, in order to fulfill your potential in one area of your life, you are choosing to miss out on fulfilling your potential in another area.

Want to write a great book? Awesome, but you're going to have to say "no" to something else.

Want to become a conference speaker? Fantastic, but you're not going to be able to do that and do everything else too.

Want to lead a healthy growing church? Wonderful, but what other opportunities are you going to ignore in order to make it happen?

Want to be a great partner and parent? Then something has got to give somewhere else.  

Paul writes in 1 Corinthians 7 that he wished that everyone was single like he was so that they could be entirely focused on the Lord's work.  

Basically Paul is saying, "Hey if you're single, you're free to go full bore after your 'ministry' potential!"

But.

If you're married.

"Don't think you'll be able to say 'yes' to every ministry opportunity that comes your way."

Too many married leaders attempt to fulfill a potential that only an unmarried person would be able to accomplish.  

If you try to fulfill the ministry potential of an unmarried person as a married person you'll likely end up an unmarried person.

One of the most freeing discoveries that you can make as a married leader is that it's okay if you don't fulfill your "ministry" potential.  

It's okay to say 'no' to writing the book...at least right now.

It's okay to say 'no' to coaching the church planter...at least during this season.

It's okay to say 'no' to speaking at the event...at least until your kids get out of school.

You made a decision when you got married to divide your ministry impact between your professional ministry and your ministry to your family.

And it's okay if you don't fulfill your "ministry" potential.